S.H.E.L.L. – Self-Harming Ends, Loving Life
Teen Girls Self-Harm Group
This Teen Girls Group is designed to help young girls ages 13 and above who have had past issues of self-harming or who are currently engaging in self-harming behaviors.
Incidence of self-harming have been rapidly increasing.
Self-harming can occur in several different ways such as cutting one’s skin, scratching, burning (either with cigarettes or an ice/salt combination), pulling one’s hair, biting self, or picking at sores thus not allowing the sores to heal. The most common forms of self-harm is cutting and /or scratching.
Bad things happen in life, and as humans, we find ways of self-soothing during hard times much as a baby who sucks his thumb in order to feel better. Children who self-harm have picked a method of self-soothing that happens to be injurious rather than helpful.
Self-Harming Ends, Loving Life
Teen Girls’ Group
Designed to help young girls ages 13 and above who have had past issues of self-harming or who are currently engaging in self-harming behaviors.
NEW MEMBERS WELCOME
S.H.E.L.L. offers an educational and experimental approach to learning healthy coping skills, learning about and accepting emotions and developing a positive self-image in a supportive and non-shaming environment.
AVERAGING $50 WEEK
- DEVELOP HEALTHY COPING SKILLS
- LEARN HOW TO IDENTIFY AND ACCEPT STRONG EMOTIONS
- LEARN ALTERNATIVE BEHAVIORS TO AID IN COPING RATHER THAN ENGAGING IN SELF-HARM
- IMPROVE EMOTIONAL REGULATIONS
- REDUCE AND CONTROL DEPRESSIVE SYMPTOMS AND ANXIETY
Self-harming is a private activity, thus the parents usually are the last to know. It is often discovered because the child’s friend discovers the self-harming and reports it to either a school counselor or their own parent, who then inform the parent of the child who is self-harming.
Self-harming usually is inflicted upon the body either on the arms, upper thighs, stomach, or breasts.
There are several reasons why a person may self-harm.
- The person has very strong emotions and doesn’t know how to cope with them, thus they cut so he/she can focus on the physical pain rather than the emotional pain.
- The person has ignored emotions to the point where he/she feels dead inside and cuts in order to feel something.
- The person “enjoys” the rush of adrenaline that often accompanies injury to the body.
- The person feels the need to punish self.
What are some indicators that a teen may be self-harming?
- Wearing long sleeves, hoodies, sweatshirts, or jackets when it is warm outside.
- Wearing multiple bracelets on one or both arms (covering up injuries).
- Wearing sweatbands around wrists (it’s not in fashion).
- Association with one or more friends who also self-harm.
Tools of choice in self-harming usually include:
- Pins (safety and straight)
- Anything else sharp
Be aware that many children will initially deny self-harming (to friends, siblings, and parents) and try to explain away current wounds, such as saying they have skin conditions, the cat scratched them, a bottle broke on them, etc. If you suspect your child is self-harming, then assume that you are right and get professional help.
PARENTS: Fight the urge to feel guilt if your child self-harms; it isn’t useful! At this stage, getting help is the main goal, not taking on guilt.