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College Stress: Get the Tools You Need

College Stress

Is your son or daughter home from college, or they stressed-out, burnt-out, over scheduled? Summer is a perfect time to give them the tools they need by developing effective strategies to achieve emotional and academic success with one of our counseling life coaches. College can be an overwhelming time in a student’s life. Our Counseling Life Coaches are dedicated to helping students get the most out of their college experience.

Our Counseling Life Coaches work with students in the following areas in order to support them in maximizing their college experience:

  • Improving effectiveness in and out of the classroom
  • Building life and leadership skills
  • Creating balance and managing stress
  • Boosting self-confidence and developing goals for the future
  • Empower students to set their own goals, take action toward them, and celebrate the progress toward, and completion of, their goals.
  • Apply the lifecoaching tools their personally and academically life.

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Not sure of your level of your college stress? Take my Stress Quiz: How Stressed are you.

Here is a quick de-stressor that can be done anywhere at any time to help you relax and calm down when they feel stress.

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Signs of self harming behavior

Adolescents often engage in self-harming behaviors alone, parents may not be aware that this problem exists.

Being observant can often uncover early signs of self-injury such as:

  • An abnormal number of cuts/burns on the wrists, arms, legs, hips or stomach
  • Wearing of long sleeves and pants even in warm weather to cover the marks
  • Frequent ‘accidents’ that cause physical injury
  • Evidence that your teenager’s friends are self-mutilating
  • Finding razors or knives in strange locations
  • Your teen locking themselves away for long periods of time in their bedroom or bathroom
  • Reluctance to be part of a social circle or social event

If you suspect a teen you know is struggle with self-harm – reach out to them and let them know that you know and that you’re there for them.

If you, or your child need additional support to manage self-harming behaviors, we can help.
Get to know our therapists and their specialty areas.

Children and teens engaging in self-harming behaviors – Help!

If you would like Dr. Kay Trotter to come talk to your group or find out more about Kaleidoscope Counseling please call 214-499-0396

Dr Trotter also post regularly on her: Facebook Fan Page and Pinterest.


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I had a black dog, his name was depression

Millions of people around the world live with depression. Many are afraid to talk about their struggles, and don’t know where to turn for help. However, depression is largely preventable and treatable. Recognizing depression and seeking help is the first and most critical towards recovery.
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Depression Checklist

Depression is one of those heavily used terms in our culture, applied to everything from a fleeting feeling to a serious clinical syndrome. Sometimes folks who have been depressed for a while are so used to it they do not even recognize it as depression! The following checklists are two tools to get you thinking about yourself, your mood, and your physical symptoms.

Emotional Checklist:

  • A persistent sad, anxious or “down” mood?
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed?
  • Reduced appetite and weight loss or weight gain?
  • Sleeping too little or sleeping too much?
  • Restlessness or irritability?
  • Persistent physical symptoms that don’t respond to treatment (such as headaches, chronic pain, or constipation and other digestive disorders)?
  • Fatigue or loss of energy?
  • Difficulty with concentration, decision-making or memory?
  • Feeling guilty, hopeless or worthless?
  • Thoughts of death or suicide?

Because these symptoms occur with many conditions, many depressed people never get help, because they don’t know that their physical symptoms might be caused by depression. A lot of doctors miss the symptoms, too.

Physical Symptoms Checklist:

  • Headaches. These are fairly common in people with depression. If you already had migraine headaches, they may seem worse if you’re depressed.
  • Back pain. If you already suffer with back pain, it may be worse if you become depressed.
  • Muscle aches and joint pain. Depression can make any kind of chronic pain worse.
  • Chest pain. Obviously, it’s very important to get chest pain checked out by an expert right away. It can be a sign of serious heart problems. But depression can contribute to the discomfort associated with chest pain.
  • Digestive problems. You might feel queasy or nauseous. You might have diarrhea or become chronically constipated.
  • Exhaustion and fatigue. No matter how much you sleep, you may still feel tired or worn out. Getting out of the bed in the morning may seem very hard, even impossible.
  • Sleeping problems. Many people with depression can’t sleep well anymore. They wake up too early or can’t fall asleep when they go to bed. Others sleep much more than normal.
  • Change in appetite or weight. Some people with depression lose their appetite and lose weight. Others find they crave certain foods — like carbohydrates — and weigh more.
  • Dizziness or lightheadedness.

These physical symptoms aren’t “all in your head.” Depression can cause real changes in your body. For instance, it can slow down your digestion, which can result in stomach problems. Depression seems to be related to an imbalance of certain chemicals in your brain. Some of these same chemicals play an important role in how you feel pain. So many experts think that depression can make you feel pain differently than other people.

But make sure to tell your health care provider about any physical symptoms. Don’t assume they’ll go away on their own. They may need additional treatment. For instance, your doctor may suggest an anti-anxiety medicine if you have insomnia. Those drugs help you relax and may allow you to sleep better.

Exploring your depression treatment options:

Antidepressants aren’t a cure. Medication may treat some symptoms of depression, but can’t change underlying contributions to depression in your life. Antidepressants won’t solve your problems if you’re depressed because of a dead-end job, a pessimistic outlook, or an unhealthy relationship. That’s where therapy and other lifestyle changes come in.

Studies show that therapy works just as well as antidepressants in treating depression, and it’s better at preventing relapse once treatment ends. While depression medication only helps as long as you’re taking it, the emotional insights and coping skills acquired during therapy can have a more lasting effect on depression. However, if your depression is so severe that you don’t have the energy to pursue treatment, a brief trial of antidepressants may boost your mood to a level where you can focus on therapy.

In addition to therapy, other effective treatments for depression include exercise, meditation, relaxation techniques, stress management, support groups, and self-help steps. While these treatments require more time and effort initially, their advantage over depression medication is that they boost mood without any adverse effects.

If you would like Dr. Kay Trotter to come talk to your group or find out more about her counseling practice, you can contact her at: 214-499-0396 or email Kay@KayTrotter.com

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Parenting Recommended Reading Series

Each day in the month of January 2014, I will post one of my favorite parenting books across a child’s lifespan on my Facebook Fan page.

I have found these books to be very valuable in my understanding of human nature.

I offer them to as a tool to enhance your parenting skills, personal growth, and personal relationships.

If you would like to suggest a parenting book for this series, that has been impactful to you please leave me a comment below with the books title and why you find it valuable.

I hope that you will join me on my Facebook Fan Page.

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Cooking to Relax—Dr Kay’s Christmas Dinner Menus

The Holiday Season can be a stressful time as we all know, and my life is no different then yours. Sometime the demands and time crutch I feel can be overwhelming. One way that I unwind, “self-sooth”, relax is through cooking.

I find that the whole cooking process from planing and researching my menu, creating a cute menu graphic to be placed on everyone’s plate,  the cooking of each hand-picked dish to the grand crescendo…sitting down and enjoying the meal with my family and friends helps me unwind — relax.

Simply Said Cooking Grounds Me

I wanted to share with you four more of my Christmas Dinner Menu from 2009 to 2012. Be sure to watch for my 2013 Christmas Dinner Menu it will be in honor of my mom Sue Sudekum (1932-2013), this will be our first Christmas with-out her. Miss you mom. 

Christmas Dinner Menu 2009Dr Kay Trotter Kaleidoscope counseling

I think everyone’s favorite this year was the Whiskey Crab Soup. However, the Cranberry-Marinated Rack of Lamb was outstanding also.

Poinsettia Cocktail – is a fun colorful Holiday Martini

Fruit and Cheese Tray – if you don’t know what cheese and fruits to use on your cheese tray, I found the Best Fruit and Cheese guide very helpful.

Whiskey Crab Soup – This soup is the perfect way to start off your Christmas Dinner.

Roquefort Pear Salad – Ever since my daughter Kelly and her husband Josh took a trip to France we think and cook differently with pears. We now put them on pizza, salads, pearing with meats of all type. Yep pears are our new go to fruit.

Cranberry-Marinated Rack of Lamb  – We love lamb, and marinated the rack of lamb with cranberry or pomegranate juice was outstanding. This recipe is no longer on-line, please email me if you want it Kay@KayTrotter.com

Almond Wide Rice and sautéed Green Beans

Southern Pecan Pie – this is a Sudekum family tradition and by the way our family recipe is the best ever.

I wanted to share with you my Sudekum family recipe for Christmas Raisin Bread. This recipe has been in our family since the 1800s – maybe even longer 

For more of my family recipes, please check out my Pinterest board Yummy Sudekum Family Favorites Recipes

Also check out my Yummy Holiday Pinterest Board

Dr Kay Trotter

Christmas Dinner 2010

Raspberry Champagne

Sun-Dried Tomato Dip, served with crackers and bread sticks | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine At Home Holiday

Feta & Pepper Dip, Served in a Tuscan bread bowl | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine At Home Holiday

Seafood Chowder | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine At Home Holiday 

Pork Wellington, wrapped in a puff pastry, stuffed with prosciutto, spinach & chèvre (goat cheese), drizzled with roasted mushroom sauce. | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine At Home Holiday

Steamed Broccoli and Rosemary Roasted Potatoes

Southern Pecan Pie | Recipe courtesy of Sudekum Family Favorites Recipes

Dr Kay Trotter

2011 Christmas Dinner Menu

Raspberry Champagne | Recipe courtesy of Williams-Sonoma

Seven Layer Salmon Bits, Stuffed Mushrooms | Recipe courtesy of Epicurious

Bloody Mary Shrimp | Recipe courtesy of Gourmet

Gourmet Cheeses Tray

Seafood Chowder | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine Holiday

Rack of Lamb with Marsalis and Crème Fraiche over Spiced Lentils with Roasted Carrots | Recipe courtesy of Cuisine Holiday

Chocolate-Bourbon Pecan Pie | Recipe courtesy of Food and Wine

Dr Kay TrotterChristmas Dinner Menu 2012

Cocktails – Disaronno Cosmo | Recipe courtesy of Disaronno

Tapa – Tortellini Caprese Bites | Recipe courtesy of My Recipes and White Bean-and-Back Olive Crostini | Recipe courtesy of

Salad  – Crispy Goat Cheese – Topped Arugula Salas with Pomegranated Vinaigrette | Recipe courtesy of My Recipes

Veggie Mashed Potatoes En Croute | Recipe courtesy of My Recipes

Main Course – Honey-Curry Glazed Lamb with Roasted Grapes and Cranberries | Recipe courtesy of My Recipes

Dessert – Elegant Eggnog Dessert | Recipe courtesy of Taste of Home

If you have any problem find these recipes please email me at Kay@KayTrotter.com

On this Christmas I offer this prayer to you and your family

May the Lord bless you and keep you;  

May the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you;

 May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.


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Dr Kay’s Playroom

Play therapists are uniquely trained to understand the content of children’s play. In the playroom, children can safely confront their problems and learn how to confine, define and master them.

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We Are a Winner!

Dr. Kay Trotter’s counseling practice is the Best Mental Health Professional in Denton County!

The Best of Denton County (Texas) is a prestigious award bestowed on businesses whom the County has deemed the “Best of the Best” We have a great team and are proud to be active in the community of Flower Mound and southern Denton County.

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Spirituality in Counseling

Spirituality is the essence of the counseling process. It positively affects healing, supports the sense of hope and good outcome, and is a source of comfort and insight along the way. Spiritual beliefs are now recognized to be a part of a person’s healthy coping skills, offering a social support system, the ability to find meaning and purpose in life, providing comfort in times of grief, and a strong ethical code.
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